So, I’ve got a few spare minutes on my hands. My son is having his nap, and I have time to jot down some thoughts.
I read a lot on subjects I am passionate about. Marriage, parenting and family life are my favourite topics right now and, as a result, I’ve read my fair share of books in these areas.
One I would really love to share with you is the book I’m currently reading – Love and Respect, by Emerson Eggerichs. The title of this book leaves no doubt about its contents. Put simply, it explains in great detail the fact that a man’s main need is respect, while a woman is more concerned with love.
I’m sure you’re thinking that if the book only covers that, why would I need to read it? In my opinion, this book is unique – one of the most inspiring marriage books I have ever read!
What makes it so special is that is reveals the important truth that all married women should know, but many have never been told: men need to know they are respected more than they need anything else. They need to know we respect them more than they need to know we love them! This is a pretty foreign concept to most ladies, as our primary need is to know that we are loved.
Let me say this again for clarity, men do not need to know we love them as much as they need to know we respect them. Of course, they still need our love, but our respect is a much bigger deal for them.
This concept, I have to admit, is completely new for me. No-one has ever explained this to me before. Now, I feel compelled to share this newfound knowledge with all of my girlfriends. It’s valuable information and I want to spread it around like I’d spread the news of a fantastic recipe or of a killer sale at my favourite shop.
Eggerichs, with the help of his wife Sarah, uses the book to explain and expand upon the very simple point I have just made. They discuss where this revelation came from and how it has applied to marriages throughout the years. I would encourage absolutely everyone to grab a copy and read it! It is one of the best investments you’ll ever make in your marriage.
As I sign off today, I’d like to encourage our female readers to let your husband know you respect him. Tell him a couple of things you respect about him and see what happens. I bet you’ll be surprised by the response!
Tanya
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Amazing. Great wisdom Tanya. Love, love, love all you have to say!
I hear you and totally agree with you. As young brides I’m not sure we always get the respect thing. I think my first marriage could have been so much better had I learned that earlier on. Can’t do much about that now. I’m a happily married, much wiser woman, second time round.
My husband and I read this book before we got married. Definitely a must read for all married couples!
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